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  • Writer's pictureBetsy Kent


Updated: Nov 11, 2020

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Did you know that you don’t need confidence to get that next job or start that new project?

As an Empty Nester do you want to find a meaningful, flexible job or project now that the kids are gone?

But do you struggle with confidence?

Well I am here to tell you that confidence is not what you need.

I’m not kidding!

In fact, it would be crazy to be confident in something you’ve never done before!

BUT- when I wanted to start something new, after the kids went to college, I got stuck - no more than stuck - I was PARALYZED!

The itty bitty committee in my head had A LOT to say about all the reasons I shouldn’t have any confidence:

- You don’t know how to do that!

- You won’t be able to do that!

- You don’t know any technology!

- You are too old to learn new things!

- You are going to fail!

- People will laugh at you!

- Who do you think you are?


SO, the next time your brain tells you that you have NO REASON to feel confident, you can thank it for its opinion, and even agree with it. But you can also explain that:

You need COURAGE to start a new job or a new project, NOT CONFIDENCE!

Now courage isn’t that easy to cultivate either. But guess what?

Courage includes the idea that you don’t know how to do something yet, that you know failure is an option, that you don’t know if you can do it yet.

That leaves the itty bitty committee in your head speechless, with nothing more to say.

If you have courage, it means you know that learning, failure, obstacles, and feedback are part of the deal. It’s already baked in. So those are not reasons to dismiss cultivating courage when starting something new.

And if you can create COURAGE, then you will be willing to try, and figure out what works and what doesn’t and you will start to be able to do what you set out to accomplish.

After you start to figure it out you will feel that you are CAPABLE of doing that new thing.

Soon that capability turns into feelings of COMPETENCE.

Do you know what feeling competent leads to? You guessed it.

You become CONFIDENT in your ability to do that new thing!

The icing on the cake is that you also start to feel CONFIDENT that you can do OTHER NEW THINGS, hard things, things that challenge you but you always wanted to do!

You learn that you can handle failure, other people’s opinions and uncertainty.

Courage is what ultimately leads to Confidence.

What’s standing in your way now? What are your obstacles to your dream job or project?

You can cultivate courage and start that new job or project. Even when you have NO evidence that you will be successful.

Are you in?

PS: Don't know where to start because you don't even know what you want to do?

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